'If you feel no shame, then do as you wish'

Abu Mas'ud 'Uqbah bin 'Amr al-Ansari al-Badri, radiyallahu 'anhu, reported that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, said: "Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: 'If you feel no shame, then do as you wish." [Al-Bukhari] 

Haya' can be translated as: modesty, shame, shyness or bashfulness, as pointed by Ustaz Jamaludin Zarabozo.

The word haya' is derived from the word "al-hayah", which means life, as if the person who has no haya' (modesty) is like a dead person. 

Islam encourages and treasures al-haya' or modesty. It is one of the most important characteristics that each and every Muslim should acquire and posses. 

Possible interpretations of the text 

Due to the form of the text, it may be interpreted in many possible meaningful ways. Imam Ibnu Rajab pointed out two interpretations of the text according to early scholars: 

First interpretation: 

If you have no modesty, then do whatever you wish and Allah will punish you for what you do. This mode of expression is well known in the Arabic language, and it is used for threatening someone. This mode is used by the Qur'an in Surah Fussilat: ayat 40. 

Second interpretation: 

If you are contemplating an act and it is an act such that there is no reason to be ashamed of doing it before Allah or the people, then you may do that act. Modesty is used as a criterion over whether or not to do a certain act. The command here is in the form of displaying permission. 

However, there is a valid third interpretation given by Ibnu al-Qayyam who is a scholar from the eighth Hijrah century. He is in the view that the command is not what is meant by this statement. Instead, it is a statement of fact. The meaning is: If a person does not have any modesty, then there is nothing to prevent him/her from doing anything. 

Haya' is one of the most important factors that keeps a person from committing a sinful act. If a person has no haya', he/she will do almost anything. 

Lessons 

There are two aspects of haya' : Natural haya' and acquired haya'. The later is attained as a result of knowing and realizing the Glory of Allah and His attributes. There are many manifestations of haya' as mentioned by Ustaz Jamaludin Zarabozo in his commentaries on the Forty Hadith: 

• Having haya' towards Allah - a Muslim should feel ashamed to have Allah see him doing - or hear him saying - something that displeases Allah, especially when that Muslim is alone and out of the view of humankind. 
• Haya' towards the angels - as they are noble and dignified creatures who witness the acts performed by humans. 
• Haya' towards other humans - an essential characteristic that keeps people from harming one another and from performing indecent acts.
• Haya' towards the person him/herself - a person should be ashamed of him/herself when he/she performs acts that are shameful.
• If he/she notices that his/her haya'  level is low he/she should improve it by remembrance of Allah, getting closer to Him, and fearing Him. 

Haya' can sometimes be abused as a justification for not doing something or giving up an obligatory act. For example, being silent or passive in the presence of falsehood or oppression for no reason except claiming haya'. Or using haya' as an excuse for not encouraging good or discouraging evil. Unless, for both of the above mentioned cases, there is another good reason for not doing these acts such as considering the most likely expected harmful consequences. 

Another example of abusing haya' is to use it as an excuse for not seeking knowledge. In many Muslim cultures this matter is confused and misunderstood where there is a proverb or cliché that says: "There is no modesty in asking questions in religious matters". But this cliché is only practiced in a few certain sensitive issues. However when it comes to seeking knowledge in a classroom, the situation is different. Most Muslims become shy and use modesty as an excuse. Parents at home, teachers at school, even lecturers at Universities add to the problem where they may treat asking questions as a sign of not being modest. This attitude needs to be changed to the right, positive one. 

Another example is using haya' as an excuse for not doing what is correct and allowed. You know that something should be done and it is good and allowed or is even a recommended or obligatory act. However, you simply give up and do not do it because of a claimed haya'. Not giving sadaqah (charity) to a needy in front of others, not taking away a harmful material from the street or the path of the Muslims, or not helping or giving a hand to a disabled or an elderly person to cross the street are some good examples of this phenomenon. 

Conclusions 

Haya' or modesty is a great Islamic concept that leads to goodness and keeps a Muslim away from doing a bad or indecent act when its level is maximized. Treating bad actions, as shown by revelation, as evil acts and feeling ashamed of Allah to do it and ashamed of the community, are ways of acquiring haya'. Iman and haya' are linked. When there is iman, there is haya', and vice versa. All of us are borne with natural haya'. However it is subject to be spoiled due to environment and dominating ideologies. Technology misuse has its negative and destructive impact on haya'. Muslims need to be aware of such challenges and exert their effort to overcome them. Haya' cannot be used as an excuse for not doing good deeds and acts. 

Source: http://fortyhadith.iium.edu.my/hadith20.htm 

It is more blessed to give than to receive

A student was walking one day with his professor. As they went along they saw lying in the path a pair of old shoes, which belonged to an old man who was working in a field nearby. His work for that day was nearly done.

The student turned to the professor saying: "Let us play a trick on the man: we will hide his shoes and conceal ourselves behind those bushes and wait to see his response when he cannot find them".

"My young friend" answered the professor, "we should never amuse ourselves at the expense of the poor. You are rich and may give yourself a much greater pleasure by the means of this poor man. Put a coin in each shoe and then we will hide and watch how this affects him".

So it was and they hid behind some bushes. The poor man finished his work and came to the path where he had left his coat and shoes. While putting his coat on he slipped his foot into one of his shoes. Feeling something hard he stooped down to feel what it was and he found a coin.

Astonishment and wonder were upon his face. He gazed at the coin, turned it around and around looking at it again and again. He then looked all around but could see no one. He put the money in his pocket and proceeded to put the other shoe on; but his surprise was doubled on finding the other coin.

His feelings overcame him; he fell upon his knees, looked up to heaven and uttered aloud a fervent thanksgiving in which he spoke of his wife, sick and helpless and his children without bread whom this timely bounty from some unknown hand would save from perishing.

The student stood there deeply affected and tears filled his eyes. "Now" said the professor – are you not much better pleased than if you had played your trick?"

The youth replied, "You have taught me a lesson which I will never forget. I feel now the truth of these words, which I never understood before: "It is more blessed to give than to receive".

"And whatever you spend for spendings (e.g., in Sadaqah – charity, etc. for Allâh’s Cause) or whatever vow you make, be sure Allâh knows it all. And for the Zâlimûn (wrong-doers, etc.) there are no helpers.." (Al-Baqarah 2:270)

"Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqah (charity) followed by injury. And Allâh is Rich (Free of all wants) and He is Most-Forbearing". (Al-Baqarah 2:263)

Making Assumptions

One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops – a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well. 

At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on, six foot eight, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the driver and said, “Big John doesn’t pay!” and sat down at the back. 

Did I mention that the driver was five foot three, thin, and basically meek? Well, he was. Naturally, he didn’t argue with Big John, but he wasn’t happy about it. The next day the same thing happened – Big John got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next. 

This grated on the bus driver, who started losing sleep over the way Big John was taking advantage of him. Finally he could stand it no longer and so he signed up for body building courses, karate, judo, and all that good stuff. 

By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong; what’s more, he felt really good about himself. 

So on the next Monday, when Big John once again got on the bus and said, “Big John doesn’t pay!” 

The driver stood up, glared back at the passenger, and screamed, “And why not?” 

With a surprised look on his face, Big John replied, “Big John has a bus pass.” 

MORAL / LESSON: 

The moral of this incident/story is quite self evident. However, it is a lesson that many of us seem to overlook and disregard in the many activities and chores of our life. 

We learn from this incident that a person should not be hasty in making assumptions and judging a situation or an individual from what seems to be the apparent. 

It is essential that a Muslim assumes the best of his fellow being and gives him the benefit of the doubt. If possible, one should allow the fellow being to explain himself as to clear any doubts one may have. 

Our Nabi P.B.U.H has stated that being hasty is from Syaitan whilst steady composure is from Allah S.W.T. 

In the same manner ‘Ulama have stated that if there is a single reason for doubt in a matter relating to a person then that doubt should have an effect on the decision that is made. 

In conclusion, one should take all factors into consideration and avoid hastiness in judging an individual. Instead, one should try to make the matter clear as to avoid placing false accusations on anyone. 

::ALLAH KNOWS BEST::

Author : Ahmed

Source : www.haqislam.org

Buangkan Sifat Bakhil Untuk Mendapat Rahmat Allah SWT.

 أًلسَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

Segala puji bagi Allah, Tuhan sekelian alam. Selawat serta salam buat junjungan mulia Nabi Muhammad S.A.W. keluarga serta para sahabat dan pengikut yang istiqamah menuruti baginda hingga ke hari kiamat.

Sahabat yang dirahmati Allah,

Biasanya nafsu mendorong kita bersifat bakhil. Sedangkan bakhil itu dikeji dan dibenci oleh Allah SWT. Kerana Allah SWT mahu kita jadi pemurah. Dalam sebuah Hadis, Rasulullah SAW bersabda maksudnya : “Si pemurah yang jahil lebih dicintai Allah daripada ahli ibadah yang bakhil.” (Hadis Riwayat Al Khatib)

Oleh itu kita mesti melawan kemahuan nafsu itu. Paksalah hati memberi atau menderma selalu, terutamanya waktu rasa bakhil itu menguasai diri. Yang paling baik, waktu duit tinggal sedikit, waktu itulah kita latih berkorban kerana waktu itulah nafsu rasa paling tercabar. Itulah waktu yang sebaik-baiknya untuk menundukkan nafsu. Sedangkan waktu kita kaya, fungsi menderma tidaklah sebagai riadah melawan nafsu tetapi perbuatan itu sekadar dapat pahala.

Katakanlah kita sedar bahawa pada diri kita ada sifat bakhil. Kita pun tahu bahawa Allah SWT tidak suka pada orang yang bakhil. Kerana itu kita berazam untuk mengikis sifat yang terkutuk itu. Maka kita perlu cuba membiasakan dan membanyakkan sedekah, memberi hadiah dan lain-lain amalan yang berupa pemberian hak kita kepada orang lain. Agar sifat pemurah menjadi subur dan sebati seterusnya menjadi tabiat kita.

Saidina Abu Bakar r.a berkata : "Orang yang bakhil itu tidak akan terlepas daripada salah satu daripada 4 sifat yang membinasakan iaitu:

Pertama : Ia akan mati dan hartanya akan diambil oleh warisnya, lalu dibelanjakan bukan pada tempatnya atau;

Kedua : Hartanya akan diambil secara paksa oleh penguasa yang zalim atau;

Ketiga : Hartanya menjadi rebutan orang-orang jahat dan akan dipergunakan untuk kejahatan pula atau;

Keempat : Adakalanya harta itu akan dicuri dan dipergunakan secara berfoya-foya pada jalan yang tidak berguna"

Huraiannya :

Pertama : Ia akan mati dan hartanya akan diambil oleh warisnya, lalu dibelanjakan bukan pada tempatnya.

Setiap manusia akan mati samaada dia seorang yang pemurah atau seorang yang bakhil. Orang yang pemurah dekat dengan Allah, dekat dengan rahmat-Nya dan dan dekat dengan syurga, sebaliknya orang bakhil jauh daripada Allah, jauh daripada rahmat-Nya dan dekat dengan neraka.

Harta sibakhil apabila ditinggalkan kepada warisnya setelah kematiannya akan dibelanjakan ditempat maksiat atau bukan dijalan Allah SWT kerana harta itu tidak berkat dan tidak pernah dizakatkan (dibersihkan).

Kedua : Hartanya akan diambil secara paksa oleh penguasa yang zalim.

Harta yang tersimpan dan tidak pernah disedekahkan atau dikeluarkan zakat, di dunia lagi harta itu akan mendatangkan musibah kepada si pemilik harta tersebut. Kerana si bakhil akan mendapat kutukan malaikat rahmat (rezeki)

Sabda Rasulullah SAW. yang bermaksud :

“Tidaklah hamba-hamba Allah bangun di pagi hari, kecuali disertai dengan turunnya dua malaikat. Salah satu dari keduanya lalu berkata : ‘Ya Allah berilah orang yang berinfaq ganti (dari barang yang diinfaqkan)’. Dan salah satu lagi berkata ; ‘Ya Allah berilah orang yang menahan (bakhil) akan kerugian.”

(Hadis Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

Sejarah telah membuktikan bahawa setiap pemimpin yang zalim telah mengambil harta orang yang bakhil ini secara paksa kerana ini adalah balasan Allah SWT kepada orang yang bakhil dan kedekut untuk menginfakkan hartanya di jalan Allah SWT. Dia tidak akan mendapat pahala sedekah apabila hartanya dirampas secara paksa kerana harta tersebut tidak ditunaikan hak-hak yang wajib ditunaikan oleh pemiliknya.

Ketiga : Hartanya menjadi rebutan orang-orang jahat dan akan dipergunakan untuk kejahatan pula.

Biasanya orang yang bakhil terhadap hartanya, dia tidak akan suka menjalankan kerja-kerja kebaikan dan kebajikan dan tidak berminat untuk memberi sumbangan terhadap kerja-kerja dakwah dan tarbiah. Dia lebih suka melabur dalam kerja-kerja maksiat atau untuk berhibur sahaja. Hartanya akan digunakan oleh orang-orang jahat dan kaki maksiat. Kenapa perkara ini boleh berlaku? kerana sibakhil ini hatinya telah tertutup untuk membuat kebaikan dan dia banyak didorong oleh hawa nafsunya dan bisikan syaitan.

Iblis pernah berkata dihadapan Nabi SAW mengenai cara-cara iblis memperdaya anak Adam , iblis berkata : "Adapun orang miskin yang ingin mengerjakan ibadah, maka aku akan goda dirinya supaya dia memohon kekayaan dulu dari Allah SWT. Apabila dia telah mendapat kekayaan dari kurnia Allah SWT. maka dia akan lupa kemiskinannya dahulu dan akhirnya dia akan menjadi seperti Qarun. Dan dia juga tidak akan menolong sesama manusia terutama sekali fakir miskin dan menderma ke jalan Allah. Dia juga tidak akan mengeluarkan hartanya untuk membantu anak-anak yatim, mengeluarkan zakat tidak akan terlintas didalam hatinya.

Apabila hatinya sudah terpaut kepada harta kekayaan yang dia miliki, maka lupa dia untuk melaksanakan kebaikan untuk dirinya sendiri. Dia hanya akan memikirkan cara mencari untung yang akan mendatangkan kekayaan yang berlebihan kepadanya semata-mata, dia juga tidak akan memikirkan orang lain sama sekali. Dia akan menggunakan harta kekayaan untuk berfoya-foya dengan maksiat dan perkara-perkara keji, bukan sahaja setakat itu bahkan dia akan lebih sesat dari binatang ternakan.”

Keempat : Adakalanya harta itu akan dicuri dan dipergunakan secara berfoya-foya pada jalan yang tidak berguna.

Kita sering mendengar ada  berlaku rompakan , pecah rumah, ragut dan kecurain disana sini, telah berlaku di dalam masyarakat kita, mugkin kita menganggap ini adalah jenayah yang dilakukan oleh orang-orang jahat, tetapi kenapa kita tidak pernah terfikir bahawa adakah harta yang kita miliki ini pernah dibayar zakat (jika cukup nisab dan tempuhnya) atau kita keluarkan sedekah untuk fakir miskin dan dimasukan kedalam tabung-tabung masjid?

Perlu kita ingat bahawa keberkatan sesuatu harta adalah kita tunaikan hak-hak orang miskin , anak yatim dan sekolah-sekolah agama dan hak untuk membantu kerja-kerja dakwah. Apabila berlaku kehilangan harta kita diambil oleh orang-orang jahat ini bermakna harta kita tidak bersih dan kita bakhil untuk memberikan sumbangan daripada harta tersebut. Tetapi jika kita telah melaksanakan hak-hak yang wajib kita tunaikan dan berlaku juga kehilangan harta ini adalah dugaan Allah SWT untuk kita bersabar.

Sahabat yang dimuliakan,

Firman Allah SWT: “Berimanlah kamu kepada Allah dan Rasul-Nya dan nafkahkan sebahagian dari hartamu yang Allah telah menjadikan kamu menguasainya. Maka orang-orang yang beriman di antara kamu dan menafkahkan sebahagian dari hartamu, memperolehi pahala yang besar.” (Surah al-Hadid ayat 7)

Firman Allah SWT: “Siapakah yang mahu meminjamkan kepada Allah pinjaman yang baik, maka Allah akan melipat gandakan (balasan) pinjaman itu untuknya dan dia akan memperolehi pahala yang banyak.” (Surah al-Hadid ayat 11)

Bersabda Rasulullah SAW maksudnya : “Orang yang membantu perempuan janda dan orang miskin, samalah seperti berjihad di jalan Allah dan seperti bersolat malam tanpa letih, dan seperti berpuasa siang hari tanpa berbuka.” (Hadis Riwayat Bukhari)

Sebenarnya sifat bakhil bukan sahaja ada pada orang kaya dan berharta bahkan orang miskin pun tidak mustahil dihinggapi penyakit ini. Kerana itu dalam Islam bukan sahaja sedekah itu boleh dilakukan dengan harta benda tetapi boleh juga dilakukan dengan cara yang lain. Cara-cara ini dapat mendidik akhlak mulia bagi semua orang, memberi peluang pada orang miskin mengikis sifat bakhil selain turut mendapat pahala sedekah.

Oleh itu marilah sama-sama kita tinggalkan sifat bakhil, satu sifat yang dibenci dan dimurkai oleh Allah SWT. Jadikanlah kita hamba-hamba Allah SWT yang bersifat pemurah dan sentiasa bersedekah dan menginfakkan harta dijalan Allah SWT.

Author : Ust. Abu Basyer

Source : Facebook

Working For Living

 “Or why has not a treasure been granted to him? Or he should have a garden to provide his sustenance." 

- Surah Al-Furqan : Verse 8 – 

An absurd objection focused on God's Messenger, peace be upon Him, walking about the market-place earning his living: his position as Messenger would have been recognized had he been granted great wealth to save him the trouble of so working for his living.

But God willed that His Messenger should not have treasure or garden, because He wanted him to be a perfect example to be followed by his community. He was to fulfil the great task of delivering his message while he worked, earning a living at the same time. Thus, none of his followers could argue that the Prophet was freed from the responsibility of work, and thus was able to devote all his time to his message. None would take this as an excuse for not fulfilling his duty towards the divine message. We see clearly that the Prophet PBUH worked for his living while he also worked for his message. It is right, then that every one of his followers should do the same, so as to fulfil his own task towards the divine faith. 

 Wealth was later given in abundance to the Prophet so as the first experience should be completed and the example he provided be perfected. He did not allow such wealth to become his preoccupation, preventing him from the fulfilment of his task. Indeed, his generosity was so superior that is was likened by his Companions to unrestrained wind.

He provided a perfect example in resisting the lure of wealth so as to enable his followers to look at affluence in the proper perspective.

Thus, no one could say that Muhammad was able to fulfil the duties of his message because he was poor, having no preoccupations of wealth, free from the task of looking after it. Instead, he fulfilled his duties in both situations of poverty and affluence.

“Work for your World as though you will live forever, and work for your Hereafter as if you will die tomorrow.”

Source : fridaynasiha.com

Gratitude verses Complaint

Bismillaah

As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

I know he definitely would agree with Jim Davis with this statement though, 

Vegetables are a must on a diet. I suggest carrot cake, zucchini bread, and pumpkin pie.

Hmmm... correction! Come to think of it, I think I would agree with Jim too! Who wouldn't, you agree?

Anyway, my nephew's insistent to have all the vegie removed from his plate made me think that day.

How many of us are like that? With delicious and healthy 'vegetable' on our plates, but we complain about how we had to suffer having to eat them all!

Just like when we complain tired from work without remembering to thank Allaah for giving us a job, or we complain about the headache raising kids and forgetting that we once prayed to Allaah to grant us children, or we whine about the one day our tummy ache and conveniently forgot the 364 days that Allaah has given us perfectly working tummy, or we find fault with our loved ones forgetting how lonely we were before they arrived into our lives, or we grumble when given homework by our teachers without remembering to thank Allaah that we have someone else besides our parents who really loved and cared for us and want us to be successful in this life and hereafter!

Perhaps that was why Allaah repeatedly asked us this question,

Then which of the blessings of your Lord will you both (jinns and men) deny? (Surah Al-Rahman: Verse 13)

Yes, my brothers and sisters, dont you think we deserve to be asked that question?

And how would we answer Him?

I absolutely love this quote by Epictetus who once said,

He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. 

Is that not the formula for sanity and contentment my friends? 

Dont grieve for things that we do not have, instead look around us and be grateful to Him, our Lord on the things that He has given us!

Maybe this verse would make us all want to do just that!

"And remember! Your Lord caused to be declared (publicly): "If ye are grateful, I will add more (favors) unto you…" (Surah Ibrahim: Verse 7)

How about that! If only we are grateful to Him for every single thing that He sent our way, He would give us more and more and more!

Do you like that my friends? Do we like getting more favours, more blessings and more rewards?

Totally!

Let me share with you a picture that spoke to me a thousand words...

This picture made me not only laughed, but, more importantly, it made me asked myself this question - have i ever looked around me and see what others are facing before i opened my mouth and start complaining?

Think about it...

Author : sis Zabrina Abu Bakar 

3 Sifat Hina Pada Lelaki Tetapi Mulia Pada Wanita

Di dalam kitab Muhimmah karangan Syeikh 'Abdullah Ibnu 'Abdur Rahim Fathani ada menyebutkan sifat-sifat yang patut ada pada seorang perempuan muslimah sejati....iaitu 3 sifat bilamana ada pada diri seorang perempuan maka menjadi mulialah ia tetapi kalau ada pada diri seorang lelaki maka menjadi hinalah ia.

Pertama kali saya mengetahui mengenai 3 sifat ini, saya rasa terkejut dan teruja sebab memang munasabah pun sifat-sifat tersebut bagi wanita dan tidak sepatutnya ada pada lelaki. Jadi, marilah kita ambil perhatian tidak kira lelaki mahupun wanita walaupun sebenarnya ia lebih menuju kepada wanita yang ingin menjadi wanita solehah.

(Dan kata) Saiyidina 'Ali Radhiyallahu 'anhu: "Bermula yang terlebih jahat sifat lelaki itu, iaitu yang terlebih baik bagi sifat perempuan, iaitu 3 perkara:

1.        Al-Bukhul yakni kedekut atau kikir.

2.        Adz-Dzuhu yakni membesarkan diri atau sombong

3.        Al-Jubnu yakni penakut.

Sekarang kita pergi kepada penjelasannya yang juga dihuraikan dalam kitab Muhimmah ini....

Pertama, kenapa kedekut tu sifat mulia bagi wanita....? ini kerana kalau wanita tu kedekut, dia akan lebih cenderung untuk memelihara harta suaminya yakni tidak terlalu senang membelanjakan harta suaminya melainkan dengan sebab-sebab yang mustahak dan keperluan...kan bagus begitu kan...tapi kalau ada pada lelaki pula, maka hinalah sebab kedekut sangat sampai taknak bagi nafkah kepada anak dan isteri....

Kedua, kenapa membesarkan diri atau sombong itu sifat mulia bagi wanita...? ini kerana kalau wanita itu sombong, dia tidak akan sewenang-wenangnya bercakap dengan mana-mana lelaki ajnabi melainkan keperluan yang sangat mustahak....barulah wanita ini tak akan menyebabkan suaminya berasa cemburu kepadanya....tambahan pula, kalau dia sombong dengan jiran-jiran dia, dia cenderung untuk tidak berborak dengan jiran-jirannya. bagus ke..??? bagus laa...kalau berborak nanti, dia akan cenderung untuk bercerita tentang perihal orang lain dan mengumpat dan lebih teruk lagi ialah menceritakan hal rumahtangga sendiri yang mana tidak patut untuk didedahkan kepada orang lain...jadi,suami dia akan sentiasa berasa rahsia rumahtangganya akan tetap terpelihara. Dan kata-katanya yang lemah lembut adalah semata-mata untuk suami tercinta....kan bagus tu kan...tapi kalau sifat sombong ini ada pada lelaki, maka hinalah sebab tak mahu terlibat dalam kerja-kerja islam yang sepatutnya tugas utama lelaki bukan tugas wanita....

Ketiga, kenapa penakut tu sifat mulia bagi wanita...? ini kerana kalau wanita itu penakut, dia akan lebih cenderung untuk tinggal dalam rumah dan ini membuatkan lelaki-lelaki ajnabi tak terlihat pun wajah wanita ini lalu asyik kepada wanita ini yang boleh membuatkan suaminya berasa cemburu....kerana semakin 'tersimpan' seseorang wanita itu maka semakin mulialah dia sebab wanita ini ibarat mutiara yang boleh menimbulkan kesukaan dalam hati-hati lelaki ajnabi yang akan menyebabkan timbulnya fitnah....wajah cantiknya hanyalah semata-mata untuk tontonan suami tercinta....kan bagus tu kan...tapi kalau lelaki penakut memang hinalah sebab dia tak mampu untuk melindungi anak-anak dan isteri dia kerana penakut....

Kesimpulannya, wanita hendaklah bersifat dengan sifat kedekut, sombong dan penakut manakala lelaki mestilah bersifat dengan sifat pemurah, peramah dan berani....alangkah indahnya islam mengaturkan segalanya yang mana tersimpan seribu hikmah dan kebaikan....cuma manusia yang buta hati dan bertuhankan nafsu sahaja yang keras kepala tidak mahu mengikut apa yang telah ditetapkan oleh Allah..

Sifat-sifat yang disebutkan tadi bukanlah Nabi Muhammad Sollallahua'laihi wasallam sendiri yang menyebutkan dalam hadisnya, tetapi ia adalah kata-kata daripada sahabat yang bukan calang-calang orangnya iaitu menantu Nabi sendiri, Saidina A'li yang mana Nabi sendiri mengiktiraf ilmu yang ada pada diri beliau dan Nabi menggelarnya sebagai Babul i'lm iaitu pintu segala ilmu....kalau Nabi sendiri pun dah iktiraf ilmu yang ada padanya, apa pula kelayakan kita nak pertikaikan kata-kata Saidina A'li....tak payah cakap banyak...sami'na wa a'to'na....jangan jadi sami'na wa a'soina....wallahua'lam...

Being Easy on People

The true Muslim is easy on people and not hard, because the attitude of the believer is always to make things easy. This is what Allah wants for His servants:

"Allah intends every facility for you; He does not want to put you to difficulties.." [Qur'an 2:185]

Therefore the Prophet sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam encouraged the Muslims to be easy on people, and forbade them to make things difficult:

"Teach and make things easy, do not make them difficult. If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

No one would want to make things difficult and complicate matters except the person who is twisted and mean-spirited, and whose education is lacking. The straightforward person whose Islamic education is sound does not like difficulties and complications, and does not do anything to hinder the bringing of benefits to others. He follows the examples of the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, as reported by `A'ishah:

"The Messenger of Allah was never faced with the choice between two things but he took the easier of the two, so long as it was not a sin. If it was a sin, he would be the furthest of the people from it. And the Messenger of Allah never took revenge for himself, but if the bounds of Allah were transgressed, then he would take revenge for the sake of Allah." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

The Prophet fully understood the weakness of people and their different levels and potentials for patience and moral excellence. He knew that nothing is better for them than being easy with them, and nothing puts them off or hurts them more than making things too difficult for them. So he chose the easier option, within the framework of what is permitted according to the Shari`ah, and made it a way of life for the Muslim so that they would be free of the burden of having things made too difficult for them.

Author : Dr. Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi

Source : The Ideal Muslim

Jangan!!

Jangan sengaja lewatkan solat.
Perbuatan ini Allah tidak suka.
Kalau tertidur lain cerita.

Jangan masuk ke bilik air tanpa memakai alas kaki (selipar).
Takut kalau-kalau terbawa keluar najis, mengotori seluruh rumah kita.

Jangan makan dan minum dalam bekas yang pecah atau sumbing.
Makruh kerana ia membahayakan.

Jangan biarkan pinggan mangkuk yang telah digunakan tidak berbasuh.
Makruh dan mewarisi kepapaan.

Jangan tidur selepas solat Subuh,
nanti rezeki mahal (kerana berpagi-pagi itu membuka pintu berkat).

Jangan makan tanpa membaca BISMILLAH dan doa makan.
Nanti rezeki kita dikongsi syaitan.

Jangan keluar rumah tanpa niat untuk membuat kebaikan.
Takut-takut kita mati dalam perjalanan.

Jangan pakai sepatu atau selipar yang berlainan pasangan.
Makruh dan mewarisi kepapaan.

Jangan biarkan mata liar di perjalanan.
Nanti hati kita gelap diselaputi dosa.

Jangan menangguh taubat bila berbuat dosa
kerana mati boleh datang bila-bila masa.

Jangan ego untuk meminta maaf pada ibu bapa dan sesama manusia
kalau memang kita bersalah.

Jangan mengumpat sesama rakan taulan.
Nanti rosak persahabatan kita hilang bahagia.

Jangan lupa bergantung kepada ALLAH dalam setiap kerja kita.
Nanti kita sombong apabila berjaya.
Kalau gagal kecewa pula.

Jangan bakhil untuk bersedekah.
Sedekah itu memanjangkan umur dan memurahkan rezeki kita.

Jangan banyak ketawa.
Nanti mati jiwa.

Jangan biasakan berbohong,
kerana ia adalah ciri-ciri munafik dan menghilangkan kasih orang kepada kita.

Jangan suka menganiaya manusia atau haiwan.
Doa makhluk yang teraniaya cepat dimakbulkan ALLAH.

Jangan terlalu susah hati dengan urusan dunia.
Akhirat itu lebih utama dan hidup di sana lebih lama dan kekal selamanya.

Jangan mempertikaikan kenapa ISLAM itu berkata JANGAN.
Sebab semuanya untuk keselamatan kita.

ALLAH lebih tahu apa yang terbaik untuk hamba ciptaanNya.