Aku Ingin Bergelar Solehah

Aku ingin bergelar solehah
tetapi menjaga auratku sahaja kini sudah terasa payah
aku begitu tertarik dengan fesyen dunia
aku terasa rendah diri bila melihat mereka bergaya
tetapi mana mungkin auratku terdedah
kerana aku ingin bergelar solehah

Aku ingin bergelar solehah
tetapi tugas isteri tidak lagi mudah
rumahtangga kini begitu mudah ranapnya
ditambah pula dengan sikap suami yang tak dapat dijangka
kadangkala aku dibiar sendiri
kadangkala aku dibelai mesra
namun dalam apa jua ketika walau dalam linangan airmata
aku tidak membantah
aku patuhi jua setiap kehendak
asalkan tidak bertentangan dengan syariatNya
kerana aku sangat ingin sekali bergelar solehah

Aku ingin bergelar solehah
tetapi aku isteri berkerjaya
pergaulanku perlu dijaga
pertuturanku perlu berpada-pada
takut pula nanti ada yang menaruh cinta
takut pula nanti terluka hati suami tercinta
walaupun aku tidak sengaja dan tidak pernah mengundang orang ketiga
tetapi segalanya mungkin
dan aku perlu tabah dan cekal beriman
kerana aku tentunya ingin bergelar solehah

Aku ingin bergelar solehah
dan aku tahu ianya bukan mudah
tetapi aku yakin dengan janji Allah
dan akan ku terus berpegang pada matlamatku
Aku ingin bergelar solehah...

Menjaga Fikiran Positif

4 Tips Bagaimana Menjaga Fikiran Positif Setiap Hari.

1. Jangan Komen, Jangan Komplen, Jangan Ngomel.

Mengomen dan mengomplen pada setiap situasi, benda dan perkara adalah perbuatan buruk kerana Anda menyatakan rasa tidak puas hati terhadap sesuatu. Apabila situasi berlaku di luar jangkaan atau masalah timbul tanpa disangka, jangan komen, jangan komplen, jangan mengomel sampai ke laut. Biarkan ia seadanya, biarkan begitu saja. Dah kita tak boleh nak buat apa untuk mengubahnya. Latih diri Anda untuk tidak mempersoalkan. Untuk menjaga fikiran positif, jangan komen,jangan komplen,jangan ngomel.

2. Berhenti Bercakap Seolah-olah Anda Tahu.

Cakap hanya apabila Anda tahu, diam apabila Anda tidak tahu, seperti kami pernah ulang di artikel-artikel lalu. Elak banyak bercakap seolah-olah Anda banyak tahu untuk membuat diri Anda menonjol, nampak hebat gitu. Hanya orang dengan harga diri rendah mahu membuat dirinya menonjol sebab mereka kurang ada kredibiliti. Banyak bercakap kelebihan diri sendiri adalah sikap negatif, berpunca dari fikiran negatif, diapikan oleh ego. Hentikan, supaya Anda dapat ‘maintain’ berfikiran positif. Bila bercakap, lebihkan menyokong, elak mengkondem!

3. Berhenti Salahkan Luaran, Salahkanlah Dalaman.

Berhenti salahkan seseorang, salahkan Tuhan, salahkan pemimpin, salahkan kawan, salahkan adik-beradik atau apa saja di luar diri Anda. Berhenti menyalahkan atau menuding jari pada orang lain atas apa yang berlaku. Tips ini berkait dengan tips pertama tadi. Berhenti mengomen, berhenti mengomplen, berhenti menyalahkan. Salahkan dalaman iaitu diri Anda sendiri kerana tidak berinisiatif memfokus kepada penyelesaian. Salahkan diri Anda kerana tidak memainkan peranan.

Sebagai contoh, jika Anda dilanda masalah kewangan, salahkan diri sendiri kerana tidak bekerja kuat dan tidak bekerja dengan lebih bijak. Jika Anda wanita dan Anda perasan suami Anda tidak melayan Anda berbeza dari dulu, salahkan diri sendiri kerana tidak menjaga kecantikan dan tidak mengambil inisittif mencantikkan lagi kecantikan sedia ada, untuk senangkan hati suami Anda.

4. Jangan Hanya Mahu Dihormati Oleh Semua, Tapi hormatilah Semua, Walau Siapapun Dia!.

Orang berfikiran negatif hanya mahu dihormati. Orang berfikiran positif hormat semua orang dan sikap hormat itu tidak dilakonkan, ia lahir dari hati. Setiap orang disekeliling dihormati tanpa mengira jawatan, harta dan darjat, walau orang tu makcik cleaner sahaja. Orang berfikiran negatif hanya mahu dihormati sebab mereka dikuasai ego. Untuk menjaga fikiran positif, belajarlah menghormati sesiapa saja. Anda akan perasan Anda makin bersemangat untuk maju ke depan.

Pride and Arrogant

Be thankful to Allah s.w.t.for the Ni'mat (Blessings) that He has showered on us. For, if we were to compare ourselves with the rest of the people in the world, we can really see our Blessings. Are we so poor that we cannot feed our families? Are we so hungry like the people in Africa? Are we faced with war and destruction?

The answer is No! In fact, we never felt such pain and suffering. We never felt so much hunger that we cannot even move. We never needed to think that we would not have water to drink. Never! So, we must be thankful to Allah s.w.t. for such Blessings and Ni'mat. Be thankful by following Allah's Guidance carefully for Allah states which means: "If you felt syukur and grateful, then I will increase my Ni'mat towards you. But if you were kufur or ungrateful for my Ni'mat, then understand that My Punishments are severe."

My Brothers & Sisters,

Can you deny that we are living in comfort and wealth? Our physical needs are fulfilled. We no longer need to work day and night for a simple meal. That is our Blessings. But, we often forget. We forget the most important aspect of our lives. And what is that which is so important? Our souls and our spiritual development.

Everyday, we feed our body. We eat healthy food and protect ourselves from diseases. But we forget to feed our souls. What is the point of healthy food and healthy living, when our souls are starving? What is the point of protecting ourselves from diseases, when our hearts are filled with diseases of Syaitan? Are we suffering from riak? Are we suffering from ujub and takabbur? Are we allowing Syaitan to infect our hearts with these diseases?

And what is riak? Riak is pride. Riak is when everything you do is to get the acknowledgement of others. For if they acknowledge you, then you will receive promotions and respect. Let us stop for a moment and think. If we think about the many inventions and discoveries of the century, we will find that their motives are never pure. Their motives or niat are often based on wanting to show off their intelligence to others. They do not think of the consequences. They only think of the respect that they will receive for their attempts.

My Respected Brothers & Sisters,

The diseases of ujub and takabbur are amongst the most difficult diseases to cure. Ujub refers to self-pride or when we look at ourselves with pride. Someone with ujub thinks that he is the best and the most perfect. His actions are free from weaknesses and mistakes. At the same time, he looks at others with a superior feeling and attitude. If someone has ujub, he regards himself as superior to the people around him in any occasion. He likes to boast and show that he is better than the rest. He likes to control a discussion and he is not happy if others do not accept his opinions. Someone with takabbur does not accept advice and criticisms from others easily. If he was giving advice to others, this would be done harshly and without hikmah. Therefore, check ourselves. Check that we do not think ourselves as better than others or we would be suffering from takabbur. Do not lie to yourselves. Do not pretend that you do not have takabbur. For if you believe that you are free of takabbur, and you see takabbur in others, then you are the one with the takabbur.

The only cure to takabbur is to see others as being better in the eyes of Allah than ourselves. For example, if we were to look at someone younger than us, we should not be too fast to criticise his actions. Instead, we should think that has never committed sins while my sins are uncountable. Therefore, the boy will automatically become better than us in the eyes of Allah.

When we are faced with someone older, we are reminded of the fact that he had prayed to Allah far longer than ourselves. Therefore, he becomes better than us. When we see an alim or someone who is wise, we are reminded of our lack of knowledge. Allah loves him so much that he was given blessings and knowledge that we are not priviliged to. His position in Allah's Eyes are much higher than us. Why are we not given the same blessings? Why are we blinded from the knowledge that he receives? The only answer is that he is better than us.

When we see someone who is jahil and ignorant, we acknowledge that he is committing sins. But he commits his sins in ignorance. We are aware that something is sinful, and yet, we do it. With our 'Ilm, how are we to answer for our actions in front of Allah? hat if they received Whusnul khatimah or a good death, while we are suul khatimah? These are the questions and reminders that must be in our minds always. These reminders are our protection against the feelings of takabbur and ujub.

My beloved brothers, Rasulullah was asked before by Muaz bin Jabal on the purification of amalans. Muaz bin Jabal was worried and he wished to wash his amalans off the feelings of riak, ujub and takabbur. Thus, Rasulullah reminded him,

"Oh Muaz! Protect your tongue from words which would injure your brothers who read the Qur'an. Carry the burden of your own sins, and do not shift your sins onto them. Do not purify yourself while you are scorning them. Do not be cold towards them. Do not combine the matters of the world in the matters of akhirat. Do not be takabbur in an event, or others will be afraid of you for your evilness. Do not whisper to another when there is someone else with you. And do not think highly of yourself; or it will remove you from the goodness of the world and akhirat."

These are the reminders of Rasulullah s.a.w. May we receive barakah and guidance from it. Wallahu'alam.

Source : Khutbah Sermon from www.muis.gov.sg 

Lembaran Hidup Wanita Solehah

Mampukah aku menjadi seperti Siti Khatijah?

Agung cintanya pada Allah dan Rasulullah
Hartanya diperjuangkan ke jalan fisabilillah
Penawar hati kekasih Allah
Susah dan senang rela bersama...

Dapatkah ku didik jiwa seperti Siti Aishah?
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Pendorong kesusahan dan penderitaan
Tiada sukar untuk dilaksanakan...

Mengalir air mataku
Melihat pegorbanan puteri solehah Siti Fatimah
Akur dalam setiap perintah
Taat dengan abuyanya, yang sentiasa berjuang
Tiada memiliki harta dunia
Layaklah dia sebagai wanita penghulu syurga...

Ketika aku marah
Inginku intip serpihan sabar
Dari catatan hidup Siti Sarah....

Tabah jiwaku
Setabah umi Nabi Ismail
Mengendong bayinya yang masih merah
Mencari air penghilang dahaga
Di terik padang pasir merak
Ditinggalkan suami akur tanpa bantah
Pengharapannya hanya pada Allah
Itulah wanita Siti Hajar....

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Charity in Islam

THE IMPORTANCE OF CHARITY

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "The believer's shade on the Day of Resurrection will be his charity." - Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 604

The Prophet also said: "Every act of goodness is charity." - Sahih Muslim, Hadith 496

 EVERY MUSLIM MUST GIVE IN CHARITY

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Every Muslim has to give in charity." The people then asked: "(But what) if someone has nothing to give, what should he do?" The Prophet replied: "He should work with his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns)." The people further asked: "If he cannot find even that?" He replied: "He should help the needy who appeal for help." Then the people asked: "If he cannot do (even) that?" The Prophet said finally: "Then he should perform good deeds and keep away from evil deeds, and that will be regarded as charitable deeds." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 524

CHARITY IS A PURIFIER

A man once said to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): "I have plenty of property, a large family, a great deal of money, and I am a gracious host to my guests. Tell me how to conduct my life and how to spend (my money)." The Prophet replied: "Give (regular charity) out of your property, for truly it is a purifier, and be kind to your relatives and acknowledge the rights of the poor, neighbors and (those in need who seek your help)." - Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 3, No 3

CHARITY AND PAYING DEBTS ENCOURAGED

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "If I had (a mountain of) gold, I would love that, before three days had passed, not a single (coin) thereof remained with me if I found somebody to accept it (as charity), excluding some amount that I would keep for the payment of my debts." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 9, Hadith 334

DON'T DELAY GIVING IN CHARITY

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once had several coins that he asked his wife to distribute in charity. But due to the Prophet's illness at the time, she did not have an opportunity to give out the coins. When the Prophet learned of this, he asked for the coins, placed them in his hand, and then said: "What would God's Prophet think if he were to meet God, who is Great and Glorious, while (still) possessing these?" - Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 586

SPEND IN CHARITY

"Spend (in charity) out of the sustenance that We have bestowed on you before that time when death will come to someone, and he shall say: "O my Lord! If only you would grant me reprieve for a little while, then I would give in charity, and be among the righteous." - The Holy Quran, 63:10

SMILING IS CHARITY

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Charity is prescribed for each descendant of Adam every day the sun rises." He was then asked: "From what do we give charity every day?" The Prophet answered: "The doors of goodness are many...enjoining good, forbidding evil, removing harm from the road, listening to the deaf, leading the blind, guiding one to the object of his need, hurrying with the strength of one's legs to one in sorrow who is asking for help, and supporting the feeble with the strength of one's arms--all of these are charity prescribed for you." He also said: "Your smile for your brother is charity." - Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 3, No 98

BEST FORM OF CHARITY

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Shall I guide you to the best (form of) charity? It is to provide for your daughter when she (returns) to you (because of divorce or other circumstances) and has no one but you to provide for her." - Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1296

CHARITY SAVES

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Save yourself from hellfire by giving even half a date-fruit in charity." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 498

GOD IS AWARE OF THE GOOD THAT YOU DO

"They ask you (O Muhammad) what they should spend in charity. Say: 'Whatever you spend with a good heart, give it to parents, relatives, orphans, the helpless, and travellers in need. Whatever good you do, God is aware of it. " - The Holy Quran, 2:215

Source : www.islamawareness.net 

Ya Rasul Allah, kami amat merinduimu...

Ya Rasul Ya Habib Salamun 'Alaik

Aku duduk sendirian merindu

Pemergian seorang kekasih

Walau lama penantianku ini

Aku yakin pasti bertemu

Aku tahu padanya tiada mungkir

Kerna itu bukanlah sifatnya

Di akhirat kan bersua lagi

Dengan mereka yang merinduinya

Kerna dia telah pun berjanji

Akan memberi syafaatnya nanti

Saat itu pasti kan terjadi

Pada umatnya yang bertakwa

Telah beribu tahun sudah berlalu

Keagungannya pernah berlaku

Sejarahnya akan berulang lagi

Sebelum tibanya kehancuran

Namun yang percaya hanyalah mereka

Yang rindukan kekasih

Namun yang merindu hanyalah mereka

Yang selalu berselawat

Ya Nabi Ya Rasul Salamun 'Alaik

Ya Habib Salamun 'Alaik

Time Heals??

“Time heals?” ada yang benar dan tidak tentang masa berkabung dan libur ini, kerana tidak semua luka itu sama, dan masa bukan penawar terbaik cinta. Banyak kesan perpisahan bergantung pada cara, dan cara itulah yang banyak mempengaruhi emosi diri serta jangka masa.

Berikan masa untuk diri; menyendiri, menikmati sunyi dan menghargai sepi.
Jangan dengar radio atau metallica. Membaca. Berdoa. Bertahajud. Apabila hidup kita terlalu dicoraki ’si dia’, memang sukar untuk kembali sendiri. Tetapi inilah masa untuk berdikari, melihat diri dan pergi membeli-belah atau melancong! Keluar beramai-ramai amat mengubati, tetapi nurani sendiri perlu cekal kerana teman bukan wujud 24 jam 7 hari seminggu. Ada orang putus cinta ‘makan banyak’ mencuba ‘benda gila’, tetapi segala perkara yang memudaratkan diri perlu dihindari. Mendengar nasihat teman amat perlu disaat-saat ini.

Seminggu sudah cukup lama untuk berduka. Sebulan sudah cukup maksimum. Setahun menunjukkan anda sangat lemah jiwa dan pendirian. Bersedih memenatkan jiwa, dan jgn sesekali memenatkan jiwa dengan berduka sentiasa. GET OVER IT!

Hanya orang-orang yang teguh jiwanya mampu menjadi sahabat setelah berpisah. Jika anda merasakan anda seorang yang nostalgik, pendendam dan ‘pembunuh bersiri’, silalah tegas memadamkan si dia dari layar memori, tanpa mengambil masa terlalu lama. Lapan dari sepuluh orang yang kita temui semasa hayat hanyalah diciptakan menjadi kenangan, walau pernah rapat dan intim. Idealisme tentang “satu hari mungkin dia menerima aku kembali” adalah frasa yang amat membahayakan diri, kerana dalam banyak perkara;- harapan adalah perkara paling teruk dan bangsat yang membuatkan manusia sesat destinasi, lambat bertindak, kabur pilihan dan pedoman.

Teruslah menjadi manusia. Belajar memperbaiki diri, belajar ceria dan juga melatih personaliti agar lebih positif dan optimistik. yang utama, mulakan usaha dengan menyayangi diri sendiri dan menghargai segala keistimewaan dlm diri. Percayalah, anda akan perlahan-lahan bertambah yakin dan bersedia akan perhubungan seterusnya. Jika anda ditinggalkan, tu bermakna si dia itu yang tidak layak mendapat kasih-cinta anda. Bukan sebaliknya!